All Rights Reserved. For more information feel free to Contact Us. The Candle Lighting Ceremony and how it works? There is NO religious significance to the candle lighting. Whether to include a candle lighting ceremony in your celebration or not is a personal choice.
However, one of the most important aspects of a Bar or Bat Mitzvah is celebrating with family and friends. A candle-lighting ceremony is a wonderful way for the Bar Mitzvah boy or Bat Mitzvah girl to recognize and honor the important people in their lives.
To some the candle lighting ceremony is the peak of the party. A few things you will need to decide upon:. Decide on the number of candles you would like to light. Traditionally, 13 or 14 candles are lit, one for each year of the Bar Mitzvah boy or Bat Mitzvah girl's life, and another one for good luck.
Sometimes people choose to light more than 14 candles, they choose to light only one candle or they choose to light no candles at all. The candle stand is usually personalized and adds a personal touch to the ceremony.
Design the stand according to your simcha's theme. You can use styrofoam for the base and foam board material for the name piece. Select the people you're going to invite to light a candle and in what order. Start by making an initial list of honorees. Try not to forget anyone who you feel must light a candle. Please remember that is fine to group people together. The typical order for candle-lighting is as follows.
Of course it is up to you, and there is no wrong way:. Memory candle, to acknowledge loved ones that have passed away or could not attend. Great grandparents. Older Relatives. Younger Relatives. Friends of the parents. Friends of the Mitzvah Child. Mitzvah Child. Good Luck candle Optional. Everyone Candle Optional. People sometimes add a "guest-of-honor" or a "good luck" candle. It's a sweet addition! Choose someone that has always been there for you, or maybe a person that has an important experience ahead!
Prepare your speech. The mitzvah child usually leads the ceremony and gives the lighting introductions in form of a poem or a story. A few helpful hints:. Rhymes are not necessary, but they can be entertaining. Rehearse the poem or story a few times to make sure you perform it smoothly on the day of the event. If necessary read the poem or story from a printed sheet instead of memory.
Stand up straight, speak clearly and perform from the heart, allowing your guests to get the true feeling behind the ceremony. Sometimes people take the ceremony as a sign that the event is coming to an end. You may want to consider having the ceremony early in the simcha, while everyone is still seated for dinner before the dancing begins. Choose the music for the ceremony:. You can have either a song played for every candle or a few different songs that represent certain themes or one song played lightly in the background..
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